"There is a guy on my street, he lives adjacent to my house and Our eyes have met unintentionally on four different occasions.
He seems cool, collected, smart and interesting with his tinted Afro haircut and a slightly fair complexion.
You must wonder why I pay close attention to details, I am not jobless, I promise you. I am a poet and every little thing about him is poetry in my eyes.
it's been a surprising coincidence that when I am out on my balcony or somewhere purchasing something from a store, that happens to be the exact time this cute-looking man would want to stretch, stand outside his compound or walk past me.
I want to talk to him, I really do.
Sometimes, I get all loud and dramatic so he notices me and probably initiates a conversation. But it has not happened and I am getting sick of it."
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Making the first move, as it deals with expressing your feelings for someone has always been known to be a 'guy thing', but the status quo has been challenged over the years. A lot of women proceed to make the first move at expressing their feelings.
However, the problem with this is that women find it hard to deal with rejection.
Every man once in his lifetime has experienced being rejected by a woman when they make advances and nothing seems wrong with that.
In fact, a lot of times, rejection for men is motivation to keep chasing and seeking the woman's attention.
Unfortunately, it is a different story for women because they feel like it's a big deal to actually make the first move. Some sort of privilege the man should embrace wholeheartedly whether he likes it or not.
Men also want to be wooed. Please make the move
ReplyDeleteLol
DeleteThey can't hear you at the back, louder please 😄
Delete😆😆
ReplyDeleteHehehehe 😄😄
DeleteNice story
ReplyDeleteThank you darling
DeleteMen sometimes want a lady to approach them, we love boldness.
ReplyDeleteIrrespective to the reply we give, that act would always be appreciated.
Lady's do feel they would be taken cheap or reduced, the truth is a lady can approach a guy, and still make him work hard for her.
This right here is coming from experience. Please teach us, we are your students 😄
DeleteBe patient. Try more moves but don't make it obvious. If not, he will use it against you.
ReplyDeleteIf he doesn't see your moves, he's obviously not for you.
U to the next one babe! 😘
AWESOME! Simply awesome! Y'all ladies should learn
DeleteSometime last year, i saw a guy i liked then i approached him and told him. There was no need to beat about the bush. Heartbreak comes with expecting too much. It could either end in friendship or better still, a healthy relationship. What matters is that you made a move regardless of what the society thinks.
ReplyDeleteLol
DeleteSo how did it end����
How did it end?
DeleteUdochi darling, how did it end oo
DeleteLol. Even if it doesn't end well, I'm sure he'll always remember you as bold. Try it, just a friendly conversation. It wouldn't hurt.
ReplyDeleteTruth they say is a bitter pill. This one is sweet!
DeleteYou should take a first step and talk to him .. and have a clear conversation dear !
ReplyDeleteTotally, she does
DeleteJust take the shot and see what happens. I promise you won’t die.😊
ReplyDeleteCan you ladies see this? Take that step now
DeleteLadies should make moves. It's important. I've had ladies talk to me about liking me and wanting to take things serious. Though we had different views to things and I wasn't interested at those times. We're still friends. I admired their courage.
ReplyDeleteSometimes last year, a lady approached me. Though she was 3 years older than me. I liked her but I just left a relationship and I was trying to heal from the hurt. I didn't have the energy to love anybody at that time. And I wasn't certain about when I'll be ready. We're still friends and she is in a relationship now. Ladies... Speak up. Time is running out.
Also, please do not allow the guy disrespect you or see you as loosed because you asked him out. Still maintain and command your respect.
You are so on point! Love this!
DeleteAsking a man out is not so much about the answer he gives you, but rather about how you're going to act, given the answer.
ReplyDeleteI would suggest that you start initiating conversations with him and make him notice you. If it still doesn't happen, then so be it. ☺️
Awesome suggestion!
DeleteTelling a guy how you feel about him as a lady isn't cheap. It means you're bold and courageous. And if the guy says No to you, you shouldn't feel less of a woman or bad because that is life. After all, ladies do not say yes to all guys who show interest in them. I approached a guy last year and expressed my feelings for him and today we are greatttt friends😍 and nobody e yaff die😂
ReplyDeleteAwesome, I pray for this grace for us shy sisters. Amen 😄
DeleteWell,I think befriend ing a crush is cool to me irrespective of the gender.
ReplyDeleteI totally agree
DeleteYeah really there are times I just do obvious things just to be noticed, but you see making that bold move, it's hard gàn.
ReplyDeleteMy darling, you are not alone
DeleteWell, I believe rejection can be avoided or reduced if these shots are not shot unreasonably.
ReplyDeleteThere are factors to consider before shooting one's shot at all.
Like;
What are my chances of getting this man? What percentage of assurance do I have that I'll get a positive response?
Does he feel the same about me?
Is he mature enough to not make a big deal out of this, like making me a laughing stock?
Does he have integrity to not take advantage of my sincerity?
Etc
That's why shooting your shot as a lady to a man you have not been friends with is so illogical. Maybe it's not really love, you probably are
horny 😁.
Oh wow! What can I say? You have said it all
DeleteLots of truth here. Cool stuff
ReplyDeleteThanks darling Maggie
DeleteNice thought line
ReplyDeleteKeep it up
Thank you for reading
DeleteI love it
ReplyDeleteThank you for reading
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