THE TRUTH

Since my first period, the only lullaby my ears fell asleep to were all the talks about being a virgin, getting married and pleasing my husband. Nothing else ever mattered to me because I laid my bed on that foundation.

I saw the emptiness that swallowed me whole when there was no boy to text, call, write poems about or imagine while I sing to all the romantic songs on my playlist. 

It is a sad and boring thing to have a life dependent on a relationship for happiness.

I do not seek to trample on the need for companionship, love and relationships. Humans were created with an insatiable desire for attention and love. It is expedient to not feel alone as a human, hence, the reason why we commune with others. It gives some sense of belonging and we all need that.

However, we do not need to be completely useless to ourselves or utterly devastated because no man or woman is available for midnight calls and mushy text messages.

Being alone is sometimes necessary for good cognitive health. Having a consciousness of self and developing the mind into a strong cord of positivity is important. It benches doubts and self-sabotage, which helps with making good decisions in life and being assertive about who you are and what you want out of life.

You have to love the heck out of yourself first before anyone else can.

Life doesn't exactly start or end with marital titles or the number of children a family gets to have or not. There is more to life.

Waiting to live life only as a married person is a tragedy.

There are places to visit, purposes to fulfil, money to make, lives to change and talents to explore. There is so much more in this breathing quaking space called life.

Please, with all the fibre and blood swimming in your body, live! Live life now.